Relax. Relate. Release.


I find myself lately becoming agitated at the brazen disregard for the safety and security of a most precious piece of cargo … ME!  The irritation never lasts more than 5 minutes, which i would proffer is 4 minutes and 30 seconds too long.  But i am still not without my human emotions.

For instance, i was a passenger in a vehicle of co-workers and the driver, not paying any attention to what is going on outside the vehicle, ran a red light doing a good 40 mph on a slightly wet street.  In the first instance that i became aware (which was before the driver became aware) that the light was red and there were no signs that the driver was going to slow down, i calmly stated that a stop for oncoming traffic would be appropriate.  The then knee-jerk reaction was to slam on the brakes and the vehicle hydroplane.  i asked 2 questions after the vehicle was safely pulled over to the side of the road: Is everyone alright? and Was it really that important to find the radio station while driving?  Once we were safely back on the road, i grabbed my mp3 player and plugged my ears then grabbed a blanket and covered my head for the remainder of the 2 hour trip.

In my “under cover” reflection, i was reminded of an episode of “A Different World” from the late 80s where the character Whitley went to see a psychiatrist for a problem and was told that whenever she feels that pinned-up feeling of rage or frustration to recite, “Relax, Relate, Release” over and over.  I must have repeated that phrase at least 40 times before succumbing to sleep.

So when the troubles, happenstances, pitfalls, hindrances, stumbling blocks and setbacks come our way, RELAX!  Take a deep cleansing breath.  If you are able to do that, then the rest of the situation will work itself out.  If you can’t take a breath, then your probably dead and more than likely not reading this retort.

RELATE!  Find a good feeling thought and stay affixed to it.  The thought of that thing will surely make whatever you are going through in that moment seem small.

RELEASE!  Let the situation go!  After taking that breath and breathing new life into your circumstances and underscoring it with a wonderful feeling of something that brings you joy and peace, then nothing else really matters.  Energy flows where attention goes.  Put your attention on happiness and joy, peace and prosperity, love and desire.  Allow the wave of those good feelings to transport you to your calm and quiet place of being alive in the present.

Free your mind and the rest will surely follow.